Saturday, May 31, 2014

My History Before Pregnancy

Finding out when I was pregnant was one of the best thing that has ever happened to me.  I know a lot of people throw those words around carelessly but for me it was real.  It was joy, a Heavenly Gift from God. I'll take you through my medical history prior I getting pregnant.  Ever since January 2008, I've been trying to conceive a child but to no avail.  I tried doing everything I could possibly think of to conceive naturally.  Eventually,  one day I decided to see a gynecologist and remembered walking into the clinic at 21 years old thinking; am I was normal? Will I ever have a child and how could this happen to me?  Not everyone wants a child but I knew for me, I wanted at least two.  One thing I forgot to mention, was that ever since I started getting a period,I would only menstruate once every 3 - 4 months.  As young as I was, I knew that this was not normal because all the other girls within my age group got a monthly period.  I remember wishing that I could get one and be in pain like the others. Missing something or not being able to control it makes you want it even more despite the turmoils that may come with it.

Furthermore, I went to the clinic and was sent to do a series of tests to figure out what was taking place. My gynecologist told me that I have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS). Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome is a common hormonal disorder among women of reproductive age.  He stated that I will have to be on constant medication in order to get a regular period and if that's possible then we could attempt to see if I could get pregnant.  This was one of the most devastating news that I could have heard.  I remembered heading home crying, crying for the fact that I may never be able to have a child and crying because I felt less than a woman.

For me, how could I be a woman without conceiving a child?

Time goes by and I started taking birth control medications that made me feel sick all the time.  I remember getting one particular drug, Metformin, which is normally prescribed for Diabetics. This drug is used to help control the amount of glucose that the human produce.  My Physician at the time stated  that my body was making too much glucose and this was one of the reasons why I wasn't able to get pregnant.  After months and months of being on this drugs, I decided to take myself off of it.  I reached the point where I accepted that getting pregnant was out of the question and so I started directing my energy towards something new.  That something new was migrating to the United States, getting a job and paying bills.  Within the first year of moving to the United States, I went to see a new gynecologist who I hoped had better news for me.   Again the bad news kept coming and I was once again given birth controls to regulate my menstrual cycle.  After a year and a half went by and nothing was regular about my cycles when I was taken off birth controls for a month,  Therefore, I decided to find an alternative. I decided to try herbal supplements to see if that could help me in getting pregnant. 


I took to the Internet and found one product that caught my eyes.  This product is called Fertilaid. Now this product I believe is a miracle worker.  Fertilaid helps to promote hormonal balance and reproductive wellness. At this time, I was more interested in finding out what balance this herbal supplement can give to my hormones that hasn't been working ever since I knew myself.  The very first thing that caught my eyes was the fact that it did not include a bunch of drugs that were created in some lab and also for the fact that there were other women like me who gave their personal review of the product.  These women has PCOS like myself and have also been on birth control for years; trying to regulate their cycle which never happened. Also, these very same women got a regular cycle and most were able to have a baby or two. Within the first two months of taking Fertilaid,  I noticed that I got a period that lasted for fourteen days.  I was excited that for the first time in  four years I was able to get a period without taking birth controls.  Fourteen days was normal for me and I couldn't be more happier.  My period kept coming for months after with shorter cycles. Oh Happy Day for me! Finally something that works. 


Eight months after I started taking Fertilaid, I started feeling sick. I felt nauseous, sleepy and tired.  I was extremely moody and wanted to stay away from everyone.  I remembered driving to the Connecticut River in August to pour my eyes out.  I called Fabian, my boyfriend, and cried hysterically.  He asked, "what's wrong with you babes?" and I answered "I don't know, I wanted to drive to the river to cry."  No one knew what was wrong with me and I couldn't explain it either.  The very next day I was telling my friend, Richard, about my very sad day and how I've been feeling lately and he said to me, "you're pregnant and you should take a test".  Naturally I told him to shut up and don't talk smack at my ears because to me that was never possible and I wasn't even trying.  I, however, decided to go along with it and went home to take a pregnancy test. Heaven Gates has opened and my jaw dropped when I saw the double line.  I was excited but then there's this little thing in the back of my mind that said the test is wrong.  I decided to go buy two more a try them that very day and to my surprise I saw double lines AGAIN.  I was elated, I was ecstatic.  I wanted to tell the world but here comes this thought again that all three test is not correct.  What do you think I did next?  I went to see my gynecologist that same day to take a fourth test.  The nurse returned with the result and said that I was about five week pregnant. I was then convinced that this was real.  I'm about to have a baby!  I immediately felt like a woman again and called my boyfriend to let him know the GREAT news.  Two week later I did an ultrasound and blood test and found out I was actually eight weeks pregnant.  That was just awesome!!!!

7 comments:

  1. What an amazing story. Thank you for sharing. You are a beautiful family. Wish you all the best. -Leanne

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    1. Thanks, Leanne. I appreciate it. I figured it was easier to do a blog on the things I went through.

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  2. Your journey has had many bumps along the way (to say the least). So glad that you had a happy ending with a beautiful little boy!

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  3. I don't have any children myself, but I do have two nieces that I adore. I give so much credit to women like you who go through difficult pregnancies, go back to work and take care of your family.

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  4. Nice Blog Latoya. My father is an Obstetrician and has had experience with your type of pregnancy.

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